The Chain That Binds

Before an elephant can be trained it has to be tamed.

A trainer fastens a chain to its ankle and anchors the chain to a stake in the ground. The elephant is conditioned to stop when the chain provides resistance. Once trained as a baby this elephant who has the power to tear the stake out of the ground, doesn’t. It’s been trained and conditioned to accept limitation and it behaves that way for the rest of its life.

Ever seen how huge and powerful an adult elephant is?

They should easliy remove the stake and ramble and amble wherever it chooses.

But it doesnt.

Somewhere deep inside the elephants mind, when the chain pulls taught it reminds it there are limits to where it can go and what it can do.

And what it can’t do.

It’s been conditioned.

Just like me and you.

Someone or a bunch of someones told us we couldn’t or shouldn’t.

So we didn’t

I am tempted to write another ten paragraphs telling you why we behave the way we do, but ya know what?

We already know.

Breaking that chain, metaphorical or real is a matter of how strongly we believe in our own power and passion. In our lives, our careers and our businesses, we decide what we’ll accept as a limitation and what we won’t let hold us back from our goals and dreams.

It’s up to us

Namaste

You Can’t Know What You’re Worth Until You Figure Out Who You Are

 

I know, I know. We all  believe that we’re worth millions of dollars.

Lets agree that the potential is there.

Those pie-in-the-sky I’m worth a million bucks an hour mantras we speak are things we use to convince ourselves how valuable we are. It’s more of an affirmation to the world that we are a somebody. We can look in the mirror every morning and reassure ourselves that our emotional ten toes and fingers are where they belong

Do you remember the point I made in last weeks blog post?

Remember this part:

I network for three reasons.

  •        To build my referral network

  •        To test out a new program or product on a live audience

  •        To educate people on who I am and what I do.

It can be difficult sometimes to elucidate who we are and what we do.  what we do best.

The pool of business networking is murky, at best.

Yeah, I said murky.

You can ask 100 people how to effectively network and you’ll get 100 different answers.

Mostly we color ourselves deeply confused and as internet marketing guru Russell Brunson states so eloquently:

A confused mind always says NO!

If you ain’t quite sure what you are selling how the bleep am I supposed to know what I am buying?

Seriously.

I’ll shake you hand, smile, take your business card and as I walk away mumble What was that all about!?

Here is how we are taught to network.

  • Come up with a cute and catchy speech. Memorize the speech.
  • Hand out our business cards.
  • Search out people you might want to get to know and bribe, er, I mean ask them to have coffee or lunch with you. ( As business networking guru Dr. Ivan Misner once said Everyone has to eat lunch, right)

I followed this pattern for awhile. The part about lunch and coffee. I ended up gaining 30 pounds and investing in a personal trainer and a health coach!

When these strategies don’t get us the results we desire we figure one of two things”

  • The process is flawed
  • We are flawed

Until you know who you are on this journey of yours and what your gifts and talents are you are just spending time looking for…………… I mean, what are you looking for?

That’s where most of us need help.

That’s why I’m here.

 

John Jurkiewicz is the founder of a career and business coaching firm called New Career Creations. John has been in business, proudly, for 19 years. He offers a host of coaching services to help team members and business owners with their careers and businesses. 

 He and his wife Joan have been married for 44+ years. (Joan is already a candidate for sainthood!) Together they created  6 children who are creating their own, unique footprint in this world by using their gifts and talents to help make it a better place for all of us. 

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