Oh No! Not Another Post on Goal Setting

I am sorry. I have to. I am tired of watching people get ship wrecked half way to their destination when some up front  planning could go a long way towards them being successful. 

Wanna increase the possibilities of reaching your goals this up coming year? 

Read on.

Does the goal you’re looking at going to have an impact of your life? The late Zig Ziglar once said that if you want to evaluate the level of investment in yourself all you have to do is look at a plate of bacon and eggs. The chicken, he said, made a contribution. The pig, on the other hand made a commitment. 

That example has served me well over the years. If I am not totally invested in what I am about to do I will fail. That voice inside will tell me. “It’s really not worth it.” or “You are fine the way you are!”

For years Joan begged me to drop 50 pounds or so. I have a familial history of hypertension and had a lower back injury that when aggravated caused my sciatic nerve to act up. Ya think that would be enough, wouldn’t you? 

It did not. 

It took failing down in front of roughly forty five thousand people at a college football game and having to disrupt everyone’s plans for the day to cause me to reassess not only the impact on my life but on the life of so many others. 

Setting a goal to lose those fifty pounds suddenly became very personal and reaching it was going to have a positive impact on my life.

Take small bites. I spent a better part of my adult life trying to lose those fifty pounds. If you’ve been there you know it’s really frustrating. You plunk down some hard earned cash for a gym membership or a diet program and you start off great but you just can’t seem to sustain. After awhile you give up. This may be for everyone else but not for you. (Or me either.) 

The problem is not you or how you live or what you eat or any on that stuff. It’s a vision issue. We can’t fathom whats going to happen next week much less next year.  In my case I was never sure what someone who weighed fifty pounds less than I did acted and looked like. What did they eat? Stuff like that. While it was nice to day dream about it I couldn’t get my hands around its impact on my life. 

We live in a monkey-see-monkey-do world. When we have no basis for our goals we look to the right or left and copy what the person next to us is doing because, “Hey, if it worked for them it will probably work for me!” 

Until it doesn’t. 

That’s when frustration sets in and we start to doubt ourselves and why-the-hell-did-I start-all-of-this-anyway!

We give up. 

Call it fate or dumb luck I started to figure out that my weight wasn’t what was keeping me from reaching my goal. It was my behavior. (Eating a bag of Halloween Buterfingers does wonders for the midsection.) Now, I’d spent a ton of money on working with a couple health coaches and a personal trainer so I pretty much knew the “what.” I just needed to figure out the “how.” I tackled one issue at a time and set a monthly or sometimes weekly goal.

I didn’t starve myself or deny myself.  My goal was becoming  healthy. It meant making choices that would help mt move forward. At the end of a  month I’d evaluate my progress. If things were going well I’d keep-on-keepin’-on. If I’d hit a rough patch, I’d take a step back and look at what I needed to adjust. 

Find someone to help hold you accountable. Did you know the main reason we had homework was to make sure we had paid attention in class. It wasn’t to learn anything. It was to reinforce that the real learning came when the teacher held out a book or sheath of papers and deposited wisdom into our growing brains. 

Homework made sure we were paying attention.

I bring this up because as adults our goals aren’t much different than when we were in school. There was an end game then – graduation. There is an end game now – you fill in the blanks. Homework kept us accountable on our academic journey. 

Lemme ask you something? 

Who holds you accountable in the here and now. 

Every Monday, with the exception of holidays, I wait for my phone to ring. Some weeks I answer it quickly and joyfully, and others I let it ring. 

That’s usually followed by a text message: “I know where you live.”

It’s my accountability partner. 

Each week I share my progress towards my goals. They listen to me and give me kudos if I stay on track or, on the rare occasion I’ve been goofing off they help me focus. They know me, know my business and while we like and respect each other, they are not my friend. 

Sometimes they have to ask difficult questions. Accountability partners are the people who aren’t afraid to stick their heads in the lions mouth and don’t worry about getting it snapped off. 

If you don’t have one find one. 

That’s it for this week. 

Talk to you next Tuesday

You Can’t Know What You’re Worth Until You Figure Out Who You Are

 

I know, I know. We all  believe that we’re worth millions of dollars.

Lets agree that the potential is there.

Those pie-in-the-sky I’m worth a million bucks an hour mantras we speak are things we use to convince ourselves how valuable we are. It’s more of an affirmation to the world that we are a somebody. We can look in the mirror every morning and reassure ourselves that our emotional ten toes and fingers are where they belong

Do you remember the point I made in last weeks blog post?

Remember this part:

I network for three reasons.

  •        To build my referral network

  •        To test out a new program or product on a live audience

  •        To educate people on who I am and what I do.

It can be difficult sometimes to elucidate who we are and what we do.  what we do best.

The pool of business networking is murky, at best.

Yeah, I said murky.

You can ask 100 people how to effectively network and you’ll get 100 different answers.

Mostly we color ourselves deeply confused and as internet marketing guru Russell Brunson states so eloquently:

A confused mind always says NO!

If you ain’t quite sure what you are selling how the bleep am I supposed to know what I am buying?

Seriously.

I’ll shake you hand, smile, take your business card and as I walk away mumble What was that all about!?

Here is how we are taught to network.

  • Come up with a cute and catchy speech. Memorize the speech.
  • Hand out our business cards.
  • Search out people you might want to get to know and bribe, er, I mean ask them to have coffee or lunch with you. ( As business networking guru Dr. Ivan Misner once said Everyone has to eat lunch, right)

I followed this pattern for awhile. The part about lunch and coffee. I ended up gaining 30 pounds and investing in a personal trainer and a health coach!

When these strategies don’t get us the results we desire we figure one of two things”

  • The process is flawed
  • We are flawed

Until you know who you are on this journey of yours and what your gifts and talents are you are just spending time looking for…………… I mean, what are you looking for?

That’s where most of us need help.

That’s why I’m here.

 

John Jurkiewicz is the founder of a career and business coaching firm called New Career Creations. John has been in business, proudly, for 19 years. He offers a host of coaching services to help team members and business owners with their careers and businesses. 

 He and his wife Joan have been married for 44+ years. (Joan is already a candidate for sainthood!) Together they created  6 children who are creating their own, unique footprint in this world by using their gifts and talents to help make it a better place for all of us. 

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