I grew up with the mantra Fail to plan, plan to fail resounding in my ears. It was everywhere. Throw a bucket of water on me in the middle of the night and I’d sit up and shout Fail to plan, plan to fail.
Tattoed on my inner arm was Prior Planning Prevents Poor Performance
Except, when it became an excuse to move forward.
Plan. Then plan some more. Than dive really deep and plan on a micro level. Waste time, resource, energy and arrive at convincing yourself that whatever it is you are contemplating doing ain’t gonna work anyways or your hesitant about trying so you keep it in”the planning stage.”
Why even try! You have planned it all out and the evidence shows you just need to close the doors and windows and play it safe.
Or, maybe plan a little better.
Maybe the project was larger than you imagined.
Time for a feasibility study or researching the empirical knowledge.
Ooo, Ooo I know, go to a five day workshop that has nothing to do with your project but the speaker is the guru’s to end all guru’s and if you don’t attend you’ll fall behind and you won’t be welcome at the cool kids lunch table any longer.
I mean who passes up on opportunities like that? Know what I mean, Vern?
BTW: You are really stressed and over committed and you wouldn’t have had time to implement your project anyways. Right?
When we operate from that mind set, we might as well not invest the time to begin with. You might even argue that it’s not an investment of time but rather a waste of time. It’s the old tug back and forth: feeling we have to rather than wanting to. A dog chasing its tail round and round until the end result is that we are angry, frustrated and depressed.
See, our inner critic proclaims. I told ya you’d fail.
Okay, lets climb down off the bridge.
There is a simple solution. Simple but not easy.
Find someone to hold you accountable for what you’re working on. Once a week, connect and review where you’re at and what you’re doing and how much progress you’re making on the project or goal. You don’t have to schedule a five course meal. You can do it via text or email, Skype, Zoom or phone.
Find someone you can trust and someone that will hold you accountable to what you commit to doing.
It requires self discipline and commitment on both parts.
Simple, just not easy but I can tell you it may help reduce your stress level, and give the old confidence a needed boost.
There ya go, problem solved
You’re welcome. It’s what I’m here for!
See ya next week.