Lemme share a story with you.
One morning my mom was cleaning out the refrigerator. She was moving stuff around to find the ingredients to make a cake. The recipe called for two eggs. She had two eggs left in the fridge – somewhere.
As she started to back out of the fridge she dropped the eggs
Splat and splatter. (A few expletives in Polish that I didn’t understand until much later in life.)
My mom set her jaw firmly and her eyes swelled a bit and she started looking around the room. She spotted my brother a few feet away with his back turned. She took a few steps forward and swatted my brother on the butt.
Why’d ya do that for mom?
That’s for making me drop the eggs.
Two more swats.
We get angry and frustrated because the universe isn’t cooperating the way it should on our schedule and in our clearly defined terms.
It can’t be that our expectations are vague or murky, can it?
It surely has nothing to do with them being unrealistic, at the moment, does it?
We checked all the boxes, did our due diligence and arrived at the logical conclusion.
It ain’t our fault!
It has to be someones fault doesn’t it? Someone must be blamed because if we start looking at our own insights and behavior……….
Okay, let’s not go there.
I dropped some eggs a few days ago myself. The more I tried to clean them up, the more I dropped until I had a whole list of people who were responsible.
“What’s in your wallet?”
Do you have to be so damned perky all the time. That’s the problem with this world – Perky people with unrealistic expectations getting in my way. Imagine a snarl or two.
Splat and splatter.
Amazing things happen when you let them happen. Deep inside of each of us there is a voice. That voice is pure and it is always honest. We call it lottsa different things depending on our belief. Some folks call it a soul. Some call it a psyche, inner guidance, consciousness or perception. However we identify this phenomenon it appears when we allow it to appear. It’s the rudder of reason or the Oh yeah! I forgot about that.
Part of my daily routine is to set an intention for that day. I get comfortable, close my eyes, take a few deep breaths and allow everything to clear out of my mind. It’s a purification of sorts. I wash a way any negative feelings I may have about something or someone. The less clutter in my life, the easier it is for me to see things the way they are.
Sorta like cleaning a dirty window to get a better view.
I’m not sure why it happened the way it happened but on that day the story of the broken eggs popped into my head. Right there in the middle of a a major OHMMMMMMMMM moment. WAS it the major Ohm moment?
My enlightenment came when I realized I was fighting mythical beasts in mythical battles – Things I could not control in my life or in this world. (I have a pretty high opinion of myself at times.) The longer and harder I fought with them, the more difficult things became until I was bewildered!
This was not how I planned my day. I immediately began to assigning blame. Of course, all of that blame was directed outwards. None of it was my fault. Messed up world!!
Where the hell did all those other beasts come from? I didn’t summon them!!
This much wisdom I can share:
In twenty years of working in my own business and as my own boss, I’ve learned that time is precious and needn’t be wasted on chasing after things we never had control over to begin with. Sometimes stuff happens. Mindfulness and our ability to roll with the flow is what toughens us and prepares for the battles we can control.
I’m learning to identify the things I can control and I’ll devote my time and energy there.
Sigmund Frieud told us that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.
Sometimes a broken egg is just a broken egg.
Chew on that a bit.